Overwhelmed by Texts and Emails? Here’s the Solution.
This week I’ve had more calls, texts, and emails than usual and my brain is treating them like they’re life-or-death important. They are important and I will get back to the sender ASAP, but I don’t want to keep reinforcing the lie my primitive brain is telling me that, “my life is in danger and I need to get back to them as fast as possible or ‘something bad’ will happen!!”
A Simple and Effective Tool for Decreasing Morning Anxiety
Two things happen most mornings when I wake up.
I have to wipe some drool off my face even though I’m totally a nose breather.
I have an anxious thought.
Neither are problems.
Reframing Anxiety Attacks to Reclaim Inner Peace
I love the friendship and support I’ve found being a part of two online groups. During a group call yesterday, I was sharing about my experience of having lots of panic attacks in 2018. After I was done sharing, the group facilitator, Melissa, offered a reframe for the term panic attacks. She invited us to think about them as protective responses from our nervous system instead of an attack that’s happening inside us.
Do I need a life coach or a therapist?
This is a really good question; and an important one. If a potential client isn’t sure which would serve them better, I’ll start by asking the following questions:
Breaking Free from the Illusion of Perfectionism: Embracing Authenticity and Empowerment
Perfectionism usually starts young, like in elementary or middle school. We want to get all A’s, have a spotless bedroom, behave in a way that doesn’t draw negative attention, get first chair in band or orchestra, or be skinny.
Shifting from Fear of Failure to the Power of Learning
What does failure even mean? And who the hell cares if we missed our mark? Big damn deal. It doesn’t mean we’re horrible human beings, unworthy, or don’t deserve success. It means we tried something, and it didn’t turn out how we wanted. So what? Try something else or try it another way. Drop the drama!
Declutter Your Mind: The Power of Simple Steps for Mental Clarity
Her brain isn’t spinning, trying to remember all the things. Everything is in one place so she doesn’t have multiple slips of paper, and it’s giving her more mental space to think about other things, be more present with her family and not feel low-grade frustration as much.
Embracing the Sacred Awe: Exploring the Powerful Energy of Yirah Amid Fear
I’m listening to the book, Play Big, by Tara Mohr. It’s been a great book and one section hit me like a ton of bricks today.
Tara describes a book she read by the late Rabbi Alan Lew, where he says they’re a few different words and definitions for fear in Biblical Hebrew. One is Pachad, which means projected for imagined fear. Worries about the future, fear about possible rejection or someone not liking us.
Self-Compassion: Releasing the Grip of Self-Criticism for a Brighter Future
If I had a dollar for every time I was an asshole to myself, thinking it would help me get my shit together, I could pay off the national debt!
We think that being anything but kind and gentle will finally do the trick. Get us in line and make us change.
Breaking Free from Perfectionism: Embracing B- Work for Joy and Liberation
Few things wreak havoc like striving for perfection. It will waste your time and energy, and rob you of productivity, self-esteem and creative juices.
Breaking Free from Emotional Eating: Transforming Your Relationship with Food and Emotions
I’ve been an emotional eater since I was ten. I remember exactly when it started. I was in fourth grade and I broke my leg jumping off the stage in my school’s gym. I had a cast up to my groin for four weeks. And I was a very active kid. I loved to ride my bike, play with my friends, go to the park, the pool, and all the other usual kiddo activities.
Empower Your Mind: Transforming Limiting Beliefs with Neuroplasticity
There is a tale of a rabbi named Rabbi Zusya. Zusya was a timid man, a man who lived a humble life.One day Rabbi Zusya stood before his congregation and said, “When I die and have to present myself before the celestial tribunal, they will not ask me, Zusya why were you not Moses? Because I would say Moses was a prophet and I am not.
Unlocking Connection: Overcoming Ultra-Independence as a Trauma Response
I was scrolling Facebook, minding my own business when I read, “Ultra-independence is a trauma response.”
This stopped me in my tracks and I reread it a few more times.
The Power of Small Steps: Overcoming the Lie of “Not Enough”
Our brains love to tell us that what we’re doing isn’t enough or won’t be enough. That we have to make big sweeping changes to get the results we want. It’ll tell you, you have to do all the things right now in order to declutter the house, lose the weight, heal the relationship, or get out of debt.
My Journey with Anxiety: Navigating Medication, Healing, and Self-Discovery
Grab a beverage cuz this is a long-ish story.
I take Zoloft for anxiety and have for 15+ years. It takes the super sharp edges of life and softens them.
I’ve found a good combo of exercise, no caffeine, life coaching, and Zoloft, that works for me.
I used to think taking Zoloft was “cheating” somehow. Like I wasn’t trying hard enough. Sometimes that thought still creeps in. The stigma around mental health medications still exists.
Embracing Authenticity: Learning from Rabbi Zusya’s Tale of Self-Discovery
There is a tale of a rabbi named Rabbi Zusya.
Zusya was a timid man, a man who lived a humble life.
One day Rabbi Zusya stood before his congregation and said,…
Emotional Freedom: Embracing Feelings and Letting Them Flow Through You
A feeling is just a sensation in your body. No more, no less. It’s just like a wave on the beach. It only lasts about 90 seconds if we allow it and don’t resist it. It will generally have a name like anxiety, sadness, fear, grief, joy, or excitement. It will often have a location, temperature, speed, weight, texture, and, color.