Thoughts are just sentences in your brain.
Until the summer of 2019, I believed my thoughts were true, who I was, messages from the Universe and something that freaked me out more often than I cared to admit.
I had a lot of anxious thoughts. They seemed like the only thoughts I had. They started in middle school and really didn’t “let up” until I discovered Life Coaching in 2019.
I’ll never forget that day. I was working out and listening to a podcast. The podcaster was interviewing a Life Coach named Kara Lowentheil. Kara said that thoughts are just sentences in our brain. Wait, what?! Did she really say that thoughts are just sentences in our brain?
I got off the elliptical machine because I couldn’t “peddle” AND wrap my mind around the concept that just blew my brain wide open. The truth of her words resonated down to my bones. My soul knew it was a truth I’d been starving to remember. It knocked me off my axis and changed the trajectory of my life in the best way.
We have an average of 60,000 thoughts each day. 95% of those are unconscious. Which means 57,000 are habitual. They often sound like:
- My life sucks
- I don’t deserve a raise, promotion, boyfriend, wife
- I’m not good enough
- I’ll never lose this damn weight
- I’m not motivated
- I’m a procrastinator
- My dad was an alcoholic so that means…
- No one was there for me
- I haven’t done “X” before, so I can’t
- I don’t have anything interesting to contribute or say
- There’s nothing unique about my story
- My job is stressing me out
- My kids, spouse, parent or co-worker never/always “X”
- I’m a bad mom
- I’m just wired this way
- I’ll never be able to figure it out
I’m gonna get a little science-y but it’s important to know and really freaking cool!
The amazing thing about our thoughts is that we can change them! Ready for a super cool word? Neuroplasticity. It’s my favorite word! It means that our brains are capable of changing and rewiring! It means that change is ALWAYS possible if we do the work. How fantastic is that?!
A neuron is a nerve cell that transmits information. They do that by firing electrical impulses. The more that neurons fire together, the stronger their “message” becomes. If you have the thought of “I’m not good enough,” and you’ve thought it for a long time, it gets stronger. But no matter how long you’ve had a particular thought, it’s changeable! Thank you neuroplasticity! And, it won’t take that long to change the thought, yay! Just consistent practice.
So, we’ve got a bunch of thoughts that are on autopilot. But now we know we can change the ones that aren’t helpful or serving us. I think this is the best news ever! We have the potential and power to change our lives by changing our thoughts. By tweaking the sentences that aren’t helpful.
Your thoughts aren’t truths. They’re not who you are. And they’re changeable.
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